How to Overcome Imposter Syndrome

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You are listening to the mompreneur mindset podcast, a space where we empower you to build an aligned business. So you can spend less time on the things you think you should be doing in your business, and more time with the people you love. I am your host, Gianna Diggs, let’s get into it.

So welcome back to the show so today I want to talk about a topic that I feel like no matter if you are just getting started in your business if you’ve been in business for five years ten years, something that I know I personally deal with on a daily and I’m and that is imposter syndrome. So you know this is a mindset podcast. So I want to really touch on things that I know I go through and I know it’s going to be helpful for you, especially if you’re just getting started

, because it’s so easy to get wrapped up in and feeling like you’re, not the expert in your space and doubting yourself, because maybe you’re just getting started as well. Maybe you haven’t been doing what you’re doing very long and you’re looking at what other people are doing and you’re like. Well, I’m not there yet right and I know like I said I suffered through it all the time, and so here we are all right.

So, let’s start with what is imposter syndrome, so it is defined as a feeling of inadequacy and self doubt right.

So how can that show up in your life, so it can be going into a new career and feeling really unsure of yourself um. It could be starting a new business and thinking who is going to buy from me right. I’m new, I’m not the expert right like. Are they really going to purchase this particular service or this product from someone who is as new as I am.

And it’s perfectionism right, it’s feeling, like everything, has to be perfect before you present it to the world right um and then, if it’s not perfect, you know it’s not thing as perfect as you envisioned it. Ah, you think of it as a failure, I’m its thinking that anything good that happened to you happened because you got lucky  and not because you actually deserved it and it’s doing everything on your own and not asking for help where you need it, because you don’t want to seem like you’re unqualified right.

So how do we overcome this, especially because you know imposter syndrome and self doubt does not serve you. 

So number One: acknowledge the impostor feelings right recognize when you start feeling like an imposter instead of engaging with your thoughts of self doubt acknowledged that it’s a normal response. You can

start by keeping a journal write whenever you experience, feelings of self doubt or an adequacy write them down and explain a why you’re feeling that way and make sure that your, let you be as specific as possible about each situation, I’m in the chances are that when you ride it out, you’ll see that you shouldn’t worry about the situation, so you can even it a step further and tear the page out and take it to a place where you can burn it, to release the energy I’m and I’ll recommend that you

don’t read it after. You write it because you don’t want to put those thoughts back into your mind and one thing that I can’t say that I actually bought from amazon and I’m sure you can find it other places is. I I have bought bay leaves and

I bought like a small cast iron bull and I got those from amazon and I may just go ahead and link it that you could just click on it, but it’s really helpful cause. I can write out my thoughts on the bay leaves and I can go outside. It’s just not too cold. I’m. Currently it’s wintertime so little hard to do that right now, but I can go outside and light it on fire put it in the cast iron bowl, so it can burn safely and just released that energy. 

So number two: understand the root of the cause. So why do you think you feel like you don’t belong right? Is it due to a fear of failure? Oh, do you believe that you don’t deserve success right like why or why not? I’m and one

thing I can tell you is that when you start to do mindset work consistently, you will recognize your shit early. I’m like you, will realize when or where these feelings are coming from right and you’ll, like it’ll, just hit you right away and you’re

like ok, I’m kind of allowing for these things for this impasse ascension to kind of roll, my life, and I will tell you that meditation and journaling, like I mentioned before, they are the great methods to help. You answer all of those questions that I mentioned, um before honestly.

So number three: focus on facts and not feelings. So when you start feeling like a fraud, focus on the positive effects, so, for example, look at your strengths and your gifts and how you can.

To help others right, and you know what you do well and if you’re not sure can definitely act. Someone like people are gonna, be really honest with you for the most part. So, for example, recently I had a moment where I was questioned myself and a lot of the things that I’ve been doing. It work all right, so I’m very close to my mom’s, her called her, and I asked her what she thought. I was good at right and so of course she kind of question me

because you know she was like here. You are down and yourself again I’m, but I generally wanted to know her answer. So she confirms what I already knew and that felt like allegation from me, and it was something that I think that I needed to

hear in that moment and so rather than focusing on I’m, you know what I think, I’m lacking as far as still being under that five year mark of being entrepreneur. You know I can focus on what I do well, which is really think people you

know, gained clarity around things that they love to. Do I’m and and gaining and seeing themselves and validating who people are so that they don’t need to look outside of themselves to know that they’re good enough right. So I’m the other things that I feel I’m lacking. That’s gonna! That’s gonna come later and I have to surrender to that and allow for that to come with time right.

So now I want to give you a tangible way to take action on what we just talked about, so I’m I’m going to give you a few techniques that can help you in the moment when you start to feel like an impostor. So these are techniques that I learned I’m and they helped me so much so, of course I you know I’m going to share it.

So the first technique is re-framing.

So with this technique you changed the meaning of things by looking at it from a different perspective. So if you said to me hey on on I’m not sure if I should become a coach, I’m I’m not sure if I can get my

clients the results that they want right. So my answer to you would be your friends and your family right. They call you asking you I’m for the same advice that you want to use to help your clients right, so you got um you’ve, gotten them

results. So why would your client be any different right? You have the knowledge that others need to make a transformation, so just believe in yourself right. So the point is to look at your situation in a different perspective and find the positive in any situation. 

So the second technique is called emotional freedom, technique or EFT for short, or you might also see it called tapping, and I’m this technique is best demonstrated on video. So I will link. I have a beginner friendly video, where I actually tapped through a a moment where I was feeling like an imposter, I’m and I’ll having some self doubt. I did a video on my instagram, so I will win in the show notes. I’m and you can also find that in my IGTV at giannadiggs_, but basically EFT is a therapy technique loosely based on the techniques of acupuncture, so it uses the same energy. The same basic energy meridian points in the body eliminate physical, emotional and mental issues.

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So this system will help you to balance the energy system in the body to relieve all the issues that you’re experiencing when you have in parts of central and you can do that literally in the moment.

And lastly, you can do similar techniques. Like I talked about

earlier, which is journaling, I’m a breathing technique right, you can even phone a friend or family member that you trust, I’m that can actually help you when those feelings start to arise.

So that was all I really have for you today. I’m I wanted to make this audio really short and sweet, I’m and yeah. I know that deciding to go into business for yourself, while also being a mom have responsibilities. I’m you may even still have your nine to five job. It can be a lot and There are moments where you look at what other people are doing, and you see the success that they’re achieving and you you aren’t there yet. So you don’t feel like you’re good enough and are really resonate with that. So much I go through it constantly, honestly, I’m as well. This was something that I wanted to do not only for myself, but I wanted to do for you. So I hope that you enjoyed this episode, I’m if you feel comfortable enough. I definitely invite you to you Send me a any thoughts you have off. You use a technique. It can reach out to me, at my email, hello@giannadiggs.com or you can DM me at @giannadiggs_. Let me know how these techniques worked for you, I’m you know, or if you have any other techniques that you would like me to share with my audience. Okay, I will talk to you soon.

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